●Let go of guilt (but learn from mistakes)
(●Find outlet for your own feelings)
This is not a Shackleton's story, but two English mountaineers' one; Joe Simpson and Simon Yates. When they were climbing the Andes Mountains together, Simpson fell down and got injured seriously. Who in danger was not only injured Simpson but also Yates because probably they were connected by the rope, so even Yates did not have any injuries, he could not move as well as Simpson. Therefore, he had only one choice then to survive "To cut the rope". He was succeeded in reaching the base camp, but really tortured by a guilty feeling of sacrificing Simpson by cutting the rope. However, Simpson was alive, and could get to the camp! If Yates did not make a decisive decision which was cutting the rope, or if the guilty conscience deprived his hope to live of Yates, both of them would be dead possibly.
(●Find outlet for your own feelings)
This is not a Shackleton's story, but two English mountaineers' one; Joe Simpson and Simon Yates. When they were climbing the Andes Mountains together, Simpson fell down and got injured seriously. Who in danger was not only injured Simpson but also Yates because probably they were connected by the rope, so even Yates did not have any injuries, he could not move as well as Simpson. Therefore, he had only one choice then to survive "To cut the rope". He was succeeded in reaching the base camp, but really tortured by a guilty feeling of sacrificing Simpson by cutting the rope. However, Simpson was alive, and could get to the camp! If Yates did not make a decisive decision which was cutting the rope, or if the guilty conscience deprived his hope to live of Yates, both of them would be dead possibly.
There is a proverb "It is no use crying over spilt milk." While reading this part of the book, I came up with this proverb. Even when we regret something, we should not bother ourselves because that will make matters worse. Based on the regret, we have to consider what to do next not for repeating the same mistake.
Regret makes everyone discouraged at the time, but later, that works differently from people to people. Some people can be developed from the regret, while the other remain in despair. In order to be the former people, I think "Find outlet for your own feelings" is really effective. Usually it is hard to change mind to the positive direction when regretting something alone, so we should receive help of others. Sharing our thought with others, especially with the trustworthy people helps us recover as Shackleton did (He told his negative feeling to Frank Worsley, the captain when he was depressed in the middle of the terrible expedition).
I hate regret because it is very uncomfortable, but on the other hand I love it because I can be developed from the mistake. For getting better, I may need people's help, so I want to be willing to give a hand to others, too.
wow.. the story which you introduced, namely the story of the two mountaineers, really struck me... Yes, it is really true that we can be developed from the regret, in other words it is the time when we can be developed right? Since I have not read the chapter yet, this post is very helpful. thanks.
返信削除Hi Yu,
削除Thanks for commenting on Aoi's blog!
I know that story too, and have read the book and seen the movie. But I am surprised that Aoi knows it.
Hi Aoi,
返信削除Excellent post! Yes, regret can be a real burden. After doing what you can to make apologies or otherwise fix the situation, it is so important to forget about it and simply move on. It is like Shackleton, he would have regretted losing his ship and all his hopes, but then he focused on getting his men back alive.
Love it that you know the Simpson Yates Touching the Void story. It's a great one. Tell me in class how you know of this story.
Ken
Hi, Ken and Yu!
削除Thank you for your comments, but the story about English mountaineers was written in Chapter 4. I just summarize it. Sorry!